Surviving Christmas
Often painted as a time of joy and togetherness, can be a challenging period for many. From family tensions and financial pressures to loneliness and unrealistic expectations, Christmas can bring a unique set of stressors. If you find this time of year difficult, you’re not alone. Here are some practical tips to help you navigate the festive season with your mental health intact.
1. Manage Expectations
The idea of a "perfect Christmas" is often unrealistic and unhelpful. Social media, advertising, and even well-meaning family traditions can set impossible standards. Remind yourself that perfection isn’t the goal—authentic connection, self-care, and meaningful moments are what truly matter. Set boundaries with yourself and others about what you can realistically manage, both emotionally and practically. Think about how you can make the period a special, meaningful time for you.
2. Set Boundaries with Family and Friends
Gatherings can sometimes rekindle old tensions or bring up unresolved issues. If spending time with certain individuals feels draining or stressful, it’s okay to set boundaries. This could mean limiting the amount of time you spend with them, having a safe "exit plan," or simply choosing not to engage in triggering topics. Remember, your well-being comes first.
3. Prioritise Self-Care
Amid the hustle and bustle, make self-care a non-negotiable part of your Christmas routine. Whether it’s taking a quiet walk, journaling, meditating, or even indulging in a favourite movie, these moments of self-care can recharge your emotional batteries. Schedule downtime to ensure you’re not overwhelmed by constant socialising or commitments.
4. Plan Your Finances Wisely
Financial stress is a common issue during the holidays. Avoid overspending by setting a realistic budget and sticking to it. Handmade gifts, thoughtful gestures, or even agreeing with loved ones to skip presents in favour of spending quality time together can reduce financial pressure without diminishing the spirit of the season.
5. Acknowledge and Honour Your Feelings
For many, Christmas can be a painful reminder of loss, loneliness, or estranged relationships. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or disconnected during this time. Instead of forcing yourself to "be merry," acknowledge your emotions and find ways to express them—whether through talking to a trusted friend, writing, or seeking professional support.
6. Create Your Own Traditions
If traditional celebrations don’t resonate with you, consider creating your own meaningful rituals. This could be anything from volunteering to spending the day in nature, to cooking a favourite meal. Personalised traditions can help you reclaim Christmas in a way that aligns with your values and brings you peace.
7. Stay Connected
If you’re feeling isolated, reach out to friends, family, or local community groups. Many organisations host events for those spending Christmas alone. Even a simple phone call or video chat can help combat feelings of loneliness. Don’t hesitate to lean on your support network—you might find that others need connection just as much as you do.
8. Limit Alcohol and Excessive Indulgence
While indulging at Christmas is often part of the celebration, excessive drinking or overeating can take a toll on your mental and physical health. Try to maintain balance by staying hydrated, eating nourishing meals, and being mindful of your alcohol consumption. A clear mind and a well-nourished body can make it easier to handle stress.
9. Seek Professional Support if Needed
If it all feels overwhelming, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help. Therapists can provide valuable tools and a safe space to process your feelings. Many mental health professionals offer flexible appointments during the holidays to accommodate those in need.
10. Practice Gratitude
While it’s important to honour difficult emotions, balancing them with gratitude can bring perspective. Reflect on what you’re thankful for whether it’s supportive friends, small moments of joy, or even your resilience in facing challenges. Gratitude doesn’t erase hardship, but it can provide a grounding counterbalance.
Final Thoughts
Christmas can be a complex time, filled with both joy and difficulty. By managing expectations, setting boundaries, and prioritising your mental health, you can create a season that feels more manageable and meaningful. Remember, it’s okay to put yourself first and to celebrate in a way that honours your needs.
If you’re struggling, reach out for help. Therapy can offer support and guidance to help you navigate the festive season and beyond. You don’t have to do it alone.